Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves?

I always tell myself to relax, don’t stress and ignore negativity but its so hard to do when reality slaps you in the face. Why is it that if you don’t have a house, married, a career or children by the age of 25, you feel like a bit of a failure. Don’t get me wrong when I was a teenager I genuinely thought I would have my life together by now, good career, my own house and maybe even children. The years just go so fast and life doesn’t always go the way you think it will.

I went back to college at 24 to pursue a career in something I love, trying to turn a hobby into a career. Don’t get me wrong I would love to have all my ducks in a row and be settled now but I’m not. Its so hard sometimes to focus on all the things I’ve accomplished and how lucky I am to be where I am. My mind just goes to the negative things, like I have a job not a career, I don’t have a house and just feel so unsettled. When I say I’ve got a job not a career I mean for me a job you can swap and change whereas a career you need some kind of training to do it and not everyone can. I have always strived for a career, to be successful. Should I be disappointed that by 25 I don’t have a career? Where did all this pressure come from to have all your shit together so young. Why does society feel the need to push young people into having a house, career, children and get married by the time your 30. Just seams like a hell of a lot of pressure.

I’m terrible for jumping to the negative side and focus on the things that I haven’t done and haven’t got as appose to looking on a positive side. Don’t get me wrong things could be so much worse, my life is fine, nothing wrong with it. But doesn’t everyone want life to be easier, less worry, more money. Does anyone else feel like that?

My goals sometimes feel so unrealistic, negative me again I guess. But its so hard to do things like get on the property ladder, have a successful career and have a social life. I constantly tell myself its ok to have these bad days and feel like life is basically crap. But it’s so important to wake up the next day and try and get on with things. Be positive and keep going.

By the end of 2020, I will have finished my college course, I want to be in the process of buying my own house (with my boyfriend) and start progressing my career. I can’t see why this isn’t achievable. Sometimes feels like I need a kick up the ass and a sprinkle of confidence to get me to my next chapter. I do hope this helps someone who feels the same way that I do and you’re not alone in feeling this way. Something I’m trying to do at the end of everyday is write down something I’m grateful for and what I’ve accomplished, trying to bring positivity into my life.


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