As it’s my 24th birthday next week, I thought I would share 23 things I’ve learnt in my 23 years!
1. It’s never too late.
If you have always wanted to do something or change career it’s never too late to do it, don’t get me wrong it might not be easy but it’s doable. I’ve decided to go back to full time education in September, I’m sure it’s going to be difficult going from full time work to a Saturday job but it’s what I want to do.
2. If your job makes you unhappy, do something about it.
As cheesy as it sounds life is way too short to spend majority of your time doing something you hate. Why work in a place that makes you unhappy? One job I had included working nights and I promised myself I would never get a job again that included night shifts. Don’t get me wrong the job was rewarding but I didn’t have much of a life at all outside of work. Another job I had was super stressful for what it was and working in a contact centre just wasn’t for me, the people were great and I made a lot of friends but I had no enjoyment from the actual job anymore. Changing jobs can be hard but it can be for the best.
3. Don’t dwell on things.
Don’t get me wrong I can be pissed off about things but it’s important to have a little rant or moan to your family or friends and let it go. Letting things go over my head has really helped me, sometimes this is defiantly easier said than done but still important.
4. Never google an illness / symptom.
I’m sure everyone is guilty of this but is never a good idea, it just worries you more. Suddenly a cough and a fever turns into a life-threatening illness. Googling illnesses is a definite no for me. Just go to the doctors if you need to.
5. Some people are just nasty.
In jobs and life, you will come across people who are literally just nasty and enjoy being mean to others for no reason, it’s just the way they are. I try and stay away from people like this because there is no need at all, treat people how you want to be treated or just ignore the nasty individuals.
6. Exercise is a must.
I put weight on easily, so what I’ve realised Is that I need to go to the gym regularly and have a good diet 80% of the time to keep weight off. Personally, I don’t mind how much I weight a long and I feel comfortable in my own skin.
7. Hangovers last longer.
I don’t think drinking is worth it anymore, unless you have a few days to recover. I always feel rough for literally days. If I go out on a Friday night I feel like I spend the rest of the weekend being lazy and get nothing done. I will still go out and have a good time without having an alcoholic drink and the rest of the weekend I can be productive, well plan to be.
8. You don’t need hundreds of friends.
I only have a handful of best friends and that’s fine. You don’t need loads of friends to be happy. I can trust my handful of friends and they are always there for me, its quality not quantity.
9. Enjoy yourself.
You only live once, so do all things that you want to, enjoy doing it and HAVE FUN. I used to take life really seriously and I felt like I had to do things a certain way because society says I should but that couldn’t be more wrong. Working hard and achieving what you want is great but make sure you enjoy life too.
10. Don’t have a full fringe.
I have crazy curly hair and over my 23 years I’ve had a full fringe on about 3 occasions. I love it for about a week and then I hate it, I can’t wear my hair naturally curly because it spikes up at the front. My friends would always tell me not to but I would do it anyway, now I know. It doesn’t work for me.
11. Life revolves around Money.
I hate this but it so true. I can’t even count the amount of times I’ve been stressed out or down about not having money and even when I work full time it’s just not enough. There is a lot you can do that doesn’t involve money but with the world the way it is and social media, you want to keep up to date with the latest trends, and don’t want to be the person who is always saying they can’t go because they can’t afford it.
12. Put yourself first.
This might sound selfish but if you don’t put yourself first who will. Sometimes you need to be a little selfish and think about your own feelings.
13. Don’t hold grudges.
Don’t get me wrong it can be hard to get over things, especially when someone hurts you but it’s so important not to hold grudges. My so-called auntie hasn’t spoken to anyone in our family or her parents (my grandparents) for over 6 years now over silly little things, even despite my family reaching out and my granddad being very ill, nothing from her what so ever. Just let things go, personally I think life is way too short to hold a grudge, especially with family.
14. Don’t do something you don’t want to do.
If something is bothering you that much and you don’t want to do it, don’t! it can be hard to say no to people but think of yourself and your own opinion. This could be with a job, friends, family, always be your own person.
15. You don’t need everyone to like you.
I think it’s a normal thing to be liked, but as I’ve grown up I’ve realised how less and less important it is. Not everyone will like you and that’s ok, life will still go on.
16. Sleep is very important.
When I was younger I’m sure I used to live off about 4 hours sleep and didn’t even care. Now I need a good 8 hours to function as a human being, sleep is so important and shouldn’t be taken for granted.
17. Think before you speak.
Sometimes you do need to take a step back from a situation and think before you say something you regret or that really hurts someone. In the heat of the moment you might say something that you can’t take back.
18. Get out of your comfort zone.
Sometimes the best and most memorable things in life you are completely out of you comfort zone. It’s good to try new things and you’ll never know if you love of hate something until you try it.
19. If you need help, ask for it.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help in any aspect of life, don’t struggle in silence.
20. Make time to relax.
I do get stressed out and overthink thing but I do try and take time to relax and do things that take my mind of it. Such as watch TV, listen to music, get lost in a book or go for a walk. These usually work for me.
21. Its ok to have a bad day.
Everyone has a bad day, its normal. Some days I just want to cry for no reason, I’ve just had a gutsful and things do get onto of me. But is normal, no one’s perfect and happy 100% of the time.
22. Don’t be scared to stand up for yourself.
I think this is another one that you learn as you get older, in school I would not stand up for myself, I hated confrontation. As you get older it’s important to stand up for yourself in all aspects of life, if someone treats you like crap and you act fine they will continue to do it. It doesn’t have to be an argument or a problem, just having a chat can help to.
23. Finding your passion is important.
If you know what you want to do and have that passion from a young age I think you are so lucky, I’ve spent years trying different things such as ballroom dancing, gymnastics, netball, piano lessons and I’m sure I’ve tried so much more but I never found my thing. Over the last year I’ve really gotten into makeup and I honestly didn’t think it but this could be my thing, my passion. Only took me 23 years, better late than never I guess.